ACK!!! I just got home, and two of the cats were there to welcome me home, as usual. But then, my husband actually got up out of his recliner to come greet me! Then, he opened his arms, saying something like "Welcome home hug." So, we hugged! Granted, he said it the way he gives me a good night hug, or even a good morning hug... He's doing it to prevent me from hating him and becoming vindictive later!
It's just that he hasn't gotten up to greet me, nor has he offered me a welcome home hug in SO long! Not since at least before I caved in, and all of THOSE gestures between the "bomb" and me "caving in" were essentially under duress - he didn't WANT to then.
But now? WHAT am I to make of this? I'm so confused by his behavior! Little things like getting up to meet each other at the door, welcoming the other home with hugs (and kisses), being genuinely happy to see the other again... ALL those things mean so much to me. They are just one way that I feel loved and cared for... Does he really not know how much it hurts to have him do these things when he still says he wants a divorce?
Is it possible the detaching is working? I know I can't backslide regardless, but it would be nice to have an idea...
Anyone have a clue for me?
Me: 36 H: 42 M: 13.5 T: 15 No kids; 3 cats IDLY: Mid-Jul 2012 I Give In: Early Oct 2012
