Heather, I can only base my thoughts on what you've posted and I hope I'm wrong about where I think he's at right now. So, take what I'm saying w/a grain of salt and store my comments away for another time but...
He's entered the land of the crazy, but he's not gotten up to full speed yet. From your postings, I'm not picking up on any of the really oddball behavior that we see when they are in full blown replay. He appears to be just cruising along and not all h@ll bent on acting out...at least not that you've seen or heard.
You mentioned that he's got some new clothes, lost weight and is tanning. What else have you noticed? Does he look tired? Is he clean and neat or looks like he just got out of bed and didn't clean up? Have you noticed any different habits? For example, he might not have chewed gum pre-crisis but does now. Notice any change in his taste of food or drink? What about his taste in music? I realize you aren't around him much, but these are things to look for. What about his taste in clothes? Younger, more hip? Any changes in the way he wears his hair? Grown a mustache or shaved one off? Dyed his hair? Has he mentioned spending money on himself for fun or on a new vehicle?
BTW, when he gets deeper into replay, most of them who lost weight will regain it and then some.
He might be one of those mlcers that stays to himself and doesn't act all out crazy...time will tell.
Let's see how he is the next time he contacts you. Again, I could be totally off base here and I don't want you to sit around worrying about where he is in replay. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
