Thank you both for all this good advice. The therapist is our original therapist. She knows what she is doing. Today the session went very well in my opinion. W agreed to continue going to therapy -thats great. She has a bunch of pent up feelings- anger-feeling like she is bouncing around-Not sure what she wants-Afraid I will leave her again if she lets me in-Afraid of becoming enmeshed with me again. I explained that I wanted a relationship where we could be independent people and still be in relation. The therapist agreed that would be possible. The therapist said she believed me when I said that I was sure of what I wanted and stable now. I said I wanted to be a family again and have a relationship with W. She asked W if she thought I was being honest and W agreed. I think that was a huge thing.
W is very concerned how this all will effect our son, councilor assured us that he will be ok no matter how this ends up, because we are both good solid people. That seemed to make her relieved. Our next appointment isn't for 2 weeks and we decided to have separate appointments, then a together appointment a week later.
I feel encouraged, because W wasn't dogging the idea of getting back together (which she had been outside of therapist office). So I guess I just GAL for 3 weeks and continue my 180's. Thanks again for your support.


Me-41, W-41, S-9, Married 20, Separated 11-11, OM 10-12.