Did you mean why did I let her bait me into one or that I baited her?

Why I didn't disengage?
Well. Not 100% sure.
Still feelings for her which again spurs curiosity?
Trying to keep things open and honest? Went overboard here though, huh?

I see your point though... keep it short simple and don't get carried away, and if so, disengage?

Seems I struggle to get these principals into action in different situations. I see what you're saying about how I acted today, but in the moment I didn't.

If I understand you right, you feel I need to detach more, keep things more formally, short simple and away from R talks?

Together for 8,5 years.
S2
Interest in OM.
She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out.
No signs of OM, not digging.
Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.