To add a little more:
D11 is fearful of being "left out" and / or W being depressed if we work things out.

I am a bit ambivalent about where I am at. I fought so hard to be here, yet am wondering do I want to set myself up to get hurt any further. No risk, no gain? Is this a natural part of things?

W evidently had a rough day, as she asked me earlier if she could go to Zumba tonight with a friend. "I really need it (Zumba)" This is not her typical exercise day.

Jump in with some input please and thank you 8)