Here is the catch up.....yesterday H wanted to know about getting a key and coming to get some stuff. I waited until today. I wanted an answer from him about OW. He is "going forward with the process"...still don't know what that means. Anyway, I asked if he was still involved with OW. Here is how the emails went today
M:I have one question. Are you still involved with OW? I would like a yes or no answer, please. Nothing else. I believe I deserve a truthful answer.
H: same answer as every other time you've asked. No.
M:Thank you for your answer.
M: I'm not asking out of doubt. It for the "process" I need.
M: send a list of what you want from the house and we can set up a time for me to bring it to you.
H: you didn't comment on any of the things I've said or questions I've asked (key)
I don't know what you meant by you wanted to know for the process. Like I said- this is hard enough and I really want to work together on this. I want to make sure everyone is taken care of and we don't end up worse because we don't work together. So, I'm assuming that I can't have a key now.
M: you are willing to work together to end our marriage, but not willing to even try and put our 22 year marriage back together?
H: I'm not trying to fight with you and I'm not trying to upset you. I'm concernd about the bank account. Can you tell me what all the transfers to account xxxx are? I'm assuming its OD but I don't know.
M: send a list of what you want from the house and we can set up a time for me to bring it to you.

The account is mine. I make transfers to this account from joint. I only transfer what Ds and I need. I pay the house bills out of the joint. I told him three weeks ago I opened the account. I see how much he listens to me! The last time I asked about OW was about 7 or so weeks ago. I asked when I got the ILYBINILWY. So, I know I probably did some things wrong in my emails. For me to stand up to him about the key and me taking his stuff to him, I'm sure was very surprising to him. I'm sure he was expecting something different. I like the fact that he is "confused" about what I said concerning the "process". He has been saying things for the past 4 months and it never says anything or really answers what his plan is.