I can live with the messiness, the forgetfulness, the laziness, the ADD behavior and not knowing what is going on even if I tell him 4 times, but I CANNOT and WILL NOT be in a M where I am not respected and valued. Honored and cherished would be nice too.
This reminds me of the discussion my W and I had Sat. Well, honestly, it's been a recurring discussion, but still. She said she never felt like she was a partner in the M, that she was never put on equal footing with me. She is absolutely correct on this point and I didn't really change that until the past year (she says she's felt like a partner the last "few weeks"....well, I guess it's sinking it, though slowly lol).
Anyway, I mention this because our dynamics sound a lot alike and I had this superiority complex thing for along time. It's taken a lot of work to get where I'm at and I suspect, it'll be the same for your H. You'll likely have to draw a line in the sand to get that treatment, but even so, he'll have to be in a place where he is willing to listen and want to make the change.
I don't have as much experience as a lot of the folks here, but it seems to me your sitch is moving to a new phase where you're going to have to make some changes and be strong, much like when you moved back into the house.
