MIR, I'm in the same path as you but it's my H the one of the A. I told him I felt there was another woman between us, trying to brake what we have been rebuilding lately. He denied it. I changed for the better with DB and He has also changed but I feel the OP thought that she had him and now is furious pushing the buttons harder because we have been spending great time together, with friends and with our children. What to do to give him the strength he needs to open up with me and find a solution?
I know I can't live for ever with him like this. One thing is clear for me I have changed and people tell me that I look great, I know it's because I feel good with my new me.
Keep us posted!
Reading you and the other threads has given me the idea of setting boundaries.