I think AnotherStander has a very good point about the hugs... Our situations are also becoming very different since my husband and I still live together and there is no other person (that I am aware of), and we don't have children...
To be honest, I am probably deluding myself about my husband's hugs... Even though he has initiated 99% of them since the day I caved. I don't want to mislead you, Turtlegirl!
Maybe instead of rejecting hugs, you could try not to be around when it comes time to for him to leave, if that is the time you usually get hugs. Be in a different room if you're not able to leave the house? Don't stand up or walk him to the door? Sit in the kitchen or somewhere else, reading a book, or being busy in general? I'm just bouncing a few ideas around. That way you can 1-work up to actually saying no to his hugs, if you wanted to. And 2-he might start to miss touching you.
If he has to WORK to give you a hug, like actually ASK for one, what do you think you will do? I know *I* would give a hug, because the rejection of one is a horrible feeling... But still pull away first! <shrug>
Let us know how things go!
-FH
Me: 36 H: 42 M: 13.5 T: 15 No kids; 3 cats IDLY: Mid-Jul 2012 I Give In: Early Oct 2012
