Just checking in to update / journal. I don't even know what to call this. My H could be in a holding pattern, or he may be confused, he may be plotting to leave at some point soon, or he may not. Is it normal to just wait it out and let the chips fall where they may as I DB, 180 and GAL? Sometimes I just don't understand this process. I don't even know if he's in MLC or just doesn't want to be with me anymore, or both or neither. The lack of clarity is what's driving me crazy. You wouldn't know it though, I'm pretty calm and letting him do his thing as I try to recover myself and keep moving forward.
The last couple of days have been up and down with us. I've been detaching and GAL, and he's been pretty kind, although fairly distant and detached. The other morning we talked a little for the first time, and he started sleeping inside for a couple of nights (on the couch). Now he's back to sleeping outside again. I went out with a friend one night, and when I came back he was asleep - he's been getting stoned every night and just in his own world. Since that night he's back sleeping in his truck. I do catch him looking at me or watching me out of the corner of my eye, and he does little things like if I leave the house, he leaves the house. If I do something nice, he does a nice gesture. (yesterday he folded my laundry). So there are some small positives...
Since we were talking a little one morning, I asked him if he was making breakfast and he did (I was half joking!) I made us lunch later. But it's still been awkward, mainly eating in silence with breaks of small talk. He's receptive to talking a little, but it's overall very quiet between us. We say hi every morning but I this feels weird to me. I feel like there are things he's probably thinking and feeling that may or may not have anything to do with me, and it bothers me that I can't help him. I'm leaving it all alone of course, but I just wish I could have my husband back. I just saw him a few minutes ago and he's already stoned out of his mind.
I'm not going to stop taking care of myself, but is there anything else I should be doing? I don't know or understand how a previously married couple just becomes platonic housemates.
Can someone give me insight into their situation - did this change at all or do you just stay quiet, acting like you don't know each other until someone gives up and a) either moves out, b) decides to talk, or c) until they possibly come around?
