OK, so better day so far today. Trying to get back on track and all talk about R has been halted for now.
Something happened yesterday afternoon though. I think she communicated to the OM that I know about them.
Dont think he was best pleased. My wife was very angry and upset and spent 2 hours raking leaves in the pitch black of night! I have a feeling the fantasy bubble might have burst a little last night, as from what I can gather this guy wont leave his wife for her, hence the anger with him knowing that I could blow this wide open at any moment.