I forgive myself for the mistakes I made when I was married. I forgive myself.
Bklyn - this is so important but the longer I go through this MLC with my wife I realize this is not the reason this happened. This behavior comes from many unresolved issues from adolescence.
My DB phone coach explained to me that if you actions/behaviors caused this then as soon as the behavior was corrected the MLCer would see this and rationally see you changed and work to save the relationship.
I am not saying that we don't have a resposibility for our flaws. MLCers need to blame ANYONE OTHER THAN THEMSELVES since you're so close to them it's easy to blame you.
My wife taught me how to be kind, loving and forgive - cuz she was so much these 3 things - where is she now - I don't know.
Remember for better or worse !!!
Sunny
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
