I agree with Bug. There seems to be A LOT more to this story.

My biggest mistake was worrying about a reconciliation with my W before dropping the hammer to protect my rights as a father. Personally, I would do things different knowing what I know now.

My suggestion would be to ensure you can obtain 50% custody of your child or at least put forth the effort. That should be your #1 priority. Your W will not be happy about it, but that is not your problem.

The more information you share, the more we can help. Have your read Divorce Remedy? There is a "37 Rules" thread stickied to the top of this (Newcomers) forum. That is a great place to begin. Keep them near for your reference.

Me:45 ExW:48
M:04/97
3 Bombs & 2 ReCons
1st BD 11/10
D Finalized 4/20
D-16 S-14
Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa