Not getting much accomplished yet on learning more about what specific 180s to do. I am really stuck in trying to figure out how to learn without ever talking about R. When she brings up R it is mostly to vent and not very productive except I get to validate her feelings. I am staying patient but want to at least start somewhere. I am reading the 5LL and am even struggling with figure out her right language. This is partly how I got into this mess I am sure.

Lost but not depressed...

W: 40
Me: 44
M: 12 years
Together: 14
Three children (S-4, D-3, S-1)
EA started in April, discovered in 07/12
ILYBNILWY: 07/12
MC Started: 09/12
Patience Tested: 1,245,963 times since 07/12