RegretfulLA,

Your H sounds so much like mine. They speak from the same script--nothing going on with OW, loving their family...

I'm sorry because I know how painful it all feels.

I don't see our Hs changing very much but I do think that the Rs can work (with different expectations of them).

I'm sorry you're still on the pullout bed. When he's away, maybe you can reclaim your bed and stay in it for a bit.

It may not be a bad thing that you're not in a nurturing mood. Hang in there and you'll have a chance to regroup when he's away.

Me: 51
H: 52
T: 23 yrs
M: 19 yrs
S18, D16, S14 (special needs)
PA: 2003/2004
Piecing: 2004 on
Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012