DB Bootcamp -- Breakdown and Mach1

[needgrace]

hi breakdown,

i was reading your thread and noticed the stuff about being controlling.

MWD had a great post on her fb page about that:

People often accuse their partners of being "controlling." Some people ARE controlling. However, show me a marriage where one spouse is considered controlling and I will show you a marriage where the other spouse often fails to take a strong stand on things that are important to him or her OR simply stuffs feelings inside so the "controlling" spouse remains in the dark. If someone is in the dark about their partners' true feelings, they can't take those feelings into account. If you have a "controlling spouse," learn how to stand your ground or draw a line in the sand. Divorce doesn't solve the problem. Working on it does. - Michele Weiner-Davis (via @ Divorce Busting)

I wish I had understood that a long time ago.

All the best to you, breakdown.