I know that. I actually found out this morning that he has moved XW1 in and that is why he is not pursuing any sort of visitation and not showing up. I am contacting attorneys as we speak and contacting our companies for our bills and having my accounts split. Needless to say we had a scene. It is her doing. Really, I have been saying that I noticed something very different that he has been confrontational for a week and obviously it makes sense now. I had told him before I felt it was vindictiveness on her part to keep interfering with the weekend schedule. I reiterated that and he got mad of course. She was standing there in the doorway. I do have to say- he sure didn't trade up. Likely he needed someone he could feel superior over and be certain she would not be a threat to him as far as his self esteem. Regardless- I told him again, she is interfering, why can't you even acknowledge this? He kept telling me I was saying vile, venomous things. Finally, I got exasperated. Just because you think it is vile or whatever doesn't make it untrue. I think of it as the gloves just being off. She can have him. I will protect myself and my kids though. I have always tried to be nice and get along for the most part. I think of things as a compromise always. You be nice to me, I'll be nice to you. I am done DB'ing. Sort of. I know that I am going to LRT just because I am afraid of what I might do. I am going to block him out as much as possible and he will feel the consequences of his actions. No more concessions from me. I really would be willing to be nicer if he made any sort of real effort with our kids. Since he hasn't I am not going to. I cannot hurt a relationship or anything when he isn't having one. Thanks for your support here. It does mean a lot. I still am shocked at the hold she seems to have over him. I would love to say I don't care. A part of me really doesn't. It is time for me to let it go though.
