Weekend update: I started my 180's on Thursday and have completely stopped discussing anything marriage or our kids futures which is hard because I always seem to want to talk. Friday she had to work late and said she was going out with friends after. I didn't respond to that, only told her kids and I were going to my buddies fire fighter school graduation and I'd get them to bed. To my surprise she was home before us (by 9:00). Saturday she got called into work so kids and I planned a day together. Around 4:00 she sent me text saying she was done and asked what we were doing. I'd usually drop what we were doing to accommodate her but instead replied with list of errands we were running. To my shock she asked if she could join us so she met up with us and had dinner. Yesterday we all went to church then went swimming with kids at gym. Before swimming she got on the treadmill next to me which she hasn't done in a long time. We still don't really talk and there seems to be an underlying tension in the air. She also told me she was going out of town in 2 weekends with her cousin to visit her grandpa who is really sick, rather then ask any questions or details (which I would have done in past) I just said "that will be nice for you guys to see him". I don't think she's had any change of mindset but I was surprised by a few things. I'm continuing to read self help books and the Bible. I realize when I'm not trying to do things for her but doing them for me I feel much better. It's hard to do though since I've been doing the other stuff for so long but no one said the 180 would be easy. Detaching is also really hard since we're still in house and doing things together with kids.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
