and just to add, you don't know that he's faithful and loving to her so stop torturing yourself. You don't what will happen down the road.

This has always worked for me in the past. It was only that after I found myself and let him go that he has come home.

What you need to think about is, are you willing to let him "come home" without showing you real changes. It's like letting the alcoholic who promises to stop drinking if you let them come home. Without out hard work and time, they will drink again.

I think any recurrent/addictive behaviors that are abusive to the family should be treated the same way.

You will be OK.

Have you read Codependent No More, if not get it today. If you have it, read it again.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss