Hi RLA, I think finding the root of the anger is helpful, really digging. My anger was mostly based on abuse as a child. Once I was able to deal with that my anger became easier to let go.

Of course, my H has been gone, too. Hmmmm

If you are married to a man who is underfunctioning and you are angry about that, what can you do about it? Maybe you could answer this on your thread, so as not to hijack.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss