Thanks, Sweetbriar! I appreciate your opinion about my sitch and am sorry you & I are in similar boats.
I figure if H is over often I can have more impact on him w MY interactions w him.
He is NOT seeing OW outside of work YET, and if he does (which I am pretty sure he will tell me- as he has been a fairly "open book" about her) then things will definitely change...not sure if that makes sense since he's still technically having an EA w her and says he's "in love" with her and not me.
I guess I"d better set parameters early on so he doesn't just walk all over me.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.