I can tell you what I would do...not sure if anyone will agree, but him coming over morning and after school and then packing his lunch is CRAZY! If he is not willing to give up OW then he doesnt get to come in and do all these things. He is moving out..so with that, comes consequences. I understand about the kids wanting to see him but he made this decision.
I dont know if that is the right answer but its what Im doing. My H doesnt come at all except to pick my kids up and drop them off. I dont allow him to come and do the fun stuff and see the kids everyday because he walked away from us and it also hurts me to see him. My H is still with OW and claims to love her and to me, that doesnt warrant letting him in whenver he wants to have fun with us, then go to her an have fun with her.
Now, Maybe letting H there often would be better so he can see what he is missing by being gone...but for me..its more painful. I have to detach and him being there everyday wont help me.
This is just my opinion of course and Im relatively new...but I thought I would just add my 2 cents!
Im sorry that this weekend was hard...My H has been gone for 3 months and its still very hard for me and my girls. I miss him terribly and all the time...but I know that while he is with OW and loving her, he cannot be here with us. Hope your week is better than your weekend!
M:36 H:36 D14, D11, Baby due in March M:15 T:18 Met OW: 3/12 H Moved out: 8/12 Legal Sep: 11/5/12
