her being gay or "just a friend" is totally irrelevant.
She's NOT you, and you are his wife. Period.
IS this the type of respect he showed you before, which helped create the situation for an affair in the first place?
How long are you going to let your children see you treated this way? And btw, I think he's having an EA with OW, at best.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016