Hoping I can get some advice from others who have "been there". My situation is we've been married almost 20 years, and I just found proof that my husband is cheating on me for the second time in our marriage. What to do? I'm ready to walk away, but I don't want my family broken up (I have d12 and s9 - 1st time he cheated on me we did not have children).
Things had been going well, but I started noticing differences a few months back. 2 weeks ago, I found out he's been texting one # several times a day. I asked who this was, and he thought it was devious of me to check his phone (I didn't look at his phone, but I found them on the online bill usage report, as we've been hitting overage charges). He said it was nothing, just a friend at work, told me to stop thinking so much, etc.
So, I started looking up divorce busting again (it helped me before and I believe it will help me again (however this turns out). I've let myself go for the past few years, so I started working out, stopped bugging him with questions, etc. But then today, I couldn't help think that he was lying to me, so I did look at his phone. He has a private inbox where these text msgs for that one # go, that requires a password. I then looked at pictures on his phone, and there the 2 of them are. I haven't confronted himyet, but don't know what to do...is it really better to keep a marriage together? I'll confront him soon, but wanted to talk to some legal counsel first. Compounding the problem is we've been in debt and we've been working together for the last 1-2 years to pay it off (have another year to go). He's still making plans with me, we want to go to disney with the kids in Feb, and a road trip in summer 2013. How can he make these plans with me and the kids if he's with OW????!!!!
Even worse, his parents moved in a year ago, father has alzheimers....if we divorce, what happens to them? Such a mess! I feel like breaking down and crying/screaming, but I know I need to find time to talk to him first and see what we can do to try to work all this stuff out if we separate/divorce, and I don't want to tell the kids until it's definite that we do divorce or something. My heart is breaking and I don't think I can ever trust him again....
