Contact is inevitable as we have D8 and I always told W that she could come around as often as she wished.
Arsene, I would strongly advise you to rethink this. This shouldn't be this open-ended, and without more structure. Your wife needs to feel the consequences of her apparent decision to break up her family, and yet you're giving her total unfettered access to probably the single best aspect of that family.
I'm NOT saying to unreasonably restrict access to her daughter. I'm saying it should have more structure to it, and be more respectful of YOUR time with your daughter.
Starsky
I disagree.
Children should be encouraged to be involved as much with BOTH parents, with as little visibility to the division as possible. Structure related to either of you should not be a power play.
Do what is RIGHT for the kids.
Both of you support THEM (the children) in their all their endeavors, even if you can list 20 things that supports your spouse is an undesirable influence. Both of you show up to whatever they have going for them. Liberal visititation/and flexible visitation regardless of your DB / divorce stance. Avoid anything negative about your spouse or their OP (On your behalf: they make up their own minds. Related to THEM: Any thing you say about your spouse, they take internally, because your spouse is half of them. This is true even if you are the only one who ever sees them and your spouse is across the ocean and never sees them. )
If your spouse is really truly an undesirable influence: a crackhead, drug dealing, mob-related, serial murderer:
Let them show up to support your child Allow flexible if supervised visitation Don't talk bad about them (they 'hear' the bad about themselves not your ex)
If your spouse treated you badly: Your kid will understand in the end even if you don't speak it. They will understand BETTER if you don't speak it.
