WAW never replied to my txt in last post. So I just simply text her HI. She replied fast and said Hello. wtf why reply to this but not the last one. So I kept the text going just said How are you doing... she replied fast and said Im good Tx Watching Football with Friends and her son. You?
I said Tell your son I said Hi. Im doing good, doing the same minus Your son.HEHE... Have you seen the new Alex cross movie??
She repied fast: no not yet. Enjoy urself I will tell him you said Hi...
Si I replied : U should go see it. It is good. Maybe if you want we could see it togethersometime. Just putting it out there no pressure..
So to that last text she never replied. wtf. Why. I was not putting pressure on her was just putting it out there. Why is she this way.
Guys ladies any insight to this. I was just trying to engaue her a little. and she was responcive but not to being asked to movies or to the compliment i first sent in the morning.
Is there any ladies here that can tell me what is going on. or guys have you done the same and what is the next step. Please stop saying GAL. I am doing that . Im just trying to keep some contact with WAW. who says she wants to be friends....
Like unbidden says, it comes across as pursuing. She said "enjoy urself I will tell him you said Hi", this I see as her conversation-ender. When you keep it going it feels like pressure.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
You are still pressuring her and pursuing her. Just because you say "no pressure" doesn't make it so. Leave her alone and GAL.
So are you saying at this point just have no contact with her at all?
I get so many saying so many diffrent things and the DB couch says to do what I did but maybe not the asking to movie. I was trying to open the door that i thought she wanted open to talk.
Like unbidden says, it comes across as pursuing. She said "enjoy urself I will tell him you said Hi", this I see as her conversation-ender. When you keep it going it feels like pressure.
Yeah I see what you mean. Yes it did look like the conversation closer. But I was also trying to be the one who ended it. UGH. I see it now.
I don't think you made it worse, she already wasn't contacting you.
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I was just trying to engaue her a little. and she was responcive but not to being asked to movies or to the compliment i first sent in the morning.
BINGO! Reread the bolded section above ten times. See what worked and what scared her away? You came on too strong. No more compliments on how wonderful she is, no love and kisses, and no asking her out. SHE"S NOT READY FOR THAT!
I say pooh pooh on not contacting her at all. If you don't contact her and she doesn't contact you, it's over for sure. You just need to do it smarter. Look back at what she responded to and what sent her packing. Give her a break and gently try again. See the movie and tell her what you liked about it.
It's ok to have hope, and it's ok to reach out to her, but you really do need to accept the fact that she may be gone forever no matter what you do. You can't force her to love you. I want to give you a new mantra to tell yourself over and over, everyday.
"She may be gone forever and I'll be OK! Even better than OK."
Then decide to take this to heart and make it so. It really is up to you to do this and I know you can.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
I posted this before but I think you ignored it because it's not what you want to hear. SHE'S JUST BEING POLITE. That's it! You're trying to read some desire to reconcile into her texts and it's just not there. She has been completely consistent in her replies. Anytime you just text something light then she replies in a polite manner. Anytime you push it down a relationship type path she doesn't reply because she doesn't want you to get the wrong idea.
You're really coming off as desperate and clingy in your posts here, and I suspect that's how you're coming off to her as well. That's got to stop, it's not what she's looking for. You need to be strong, independent and exuding PMA whether it's in person, in emails, in texts or on the phone.
I posted this before but I think you ignored it because it's not what you want to hear. SHE'S JUST BEING POLITE. That's it! You're trying to read some desire to reconcile into her texts and it's just not there. She has been completely consistent in her replies. Anytime you just text something light then she replies in a polite manner. Anytime you push it down a relationship type path she doesn't reply because she doesn't want you to get the wrong idea.
You're really coming off as desperate and clingy in your posts here, and I suspect that's how you're coming off to her as well. That's got to stop, it's not what she's looking for. You need to be strong, independent and exuding PMA whether it's in person, in emails, in texts or on the phone.
True, but being polite is not all bad, her reaction could be worse. Just because she has no desire to reconcile RIGHT NOW, doesn't mean she never will. When to give up is up to LF.
I agree with AS's post and hope LF takes it to heart.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
All i can say is I am going to try to come accross with the PMA but here is the question for you. If all this happen this past sunday and to top it off no reply to this morning text saying Hi. How long should i be waiting to retry contacting her. also should i atempt to just call her on the phone to see if she picks up.
I have to say im having a hard time raping my head around the fact that it may be over. But i will try....i guess
All i can say is I am going to try to come accross with the PMA but here is the question for you. If all this happen this past sunday and to top it off no reply to this morning text saying Hi. How long should i be waiting to retry contacting her. also should i atempt to just call her on the phone to see if she picks up.
I have to say im having a hard time raping my head around the fact that it may be over. But i will try....i guess
By deciding that you don't need her to have a happy and fulfilling life you will actually become more attractive to her. Work on reaching this goal instead of obsessing over every little detail of your brief interactions with her and you might see some progress.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
