I really think you should see if your family could help you more post-op rather than H. I think it relieves him of some of the guilt he must have since he is helping out therefore he is not abandoning you.

My vote is say he can't sleep over until he is ready to make a commitment to your family. When you leave your kids your not allowed to sleep over and make everything safe and honky dory. You need to go home and pray that your family is safe without you.

Just my 2c


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M 39
H 35
D5,D4
M 4
T 9
ILYBNILWY 5/18/11
Left 7/11/11
Divorced 12/1/13