Why do you think what she's asking for is against DBing? Do you really want to know why she had rather have you get into a verbal argument and express yourself rather than acting like a piece of dead wood? SHE WANTS PASSION!!!!
Maybe you see suffering in silence as being cool....or maybe even your version of what DB is about. It's neither. And I'm not saying to be a whiner, either. I just don't know how you interpret DB.
She is begging you to start standing up and do whatever you have to do to show you still have something down there in your pants. She doesn't want a girlfriend to share a house. She wants a real man who she can't intimidate. She wants a man who is not needy and clinging. Nothing else is going to work. Stop choosing some other alternative. So far, that's exactly what you've done.
I have beat you up in almost every post I've sent you. But you continue to say all the nice things.....like you will certainly take it under consideration, which I'm thinking means you'll continue to do the same behavior. You're doing the same with your W. Can you see that? It brings out the worst in her. I think she wants you to show some spunk!
I'm not trying to disrespect you. I'm trying to tell you how it is. But your W is treating you like cr@p and you try to make it humorous? That's what you do in your posts when you add "LOL". I've seen a few men in life who've done the same thing in their MR. They might as well carry a sign around their necks to declare themselves as doormats. It's just a coping mechanism, but it's a very sad one. However, it's you who choses to live your life that way and only you who can change it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
