Oh Vero I am sorry that S4 has to go through that :-(
I understand your dilemma re: H of course. So many emotions and worry already in play on top of worry and care for the children post-op.
I am not sure what to say. I think more experienced people can help you better.
Love you and am thinking about you (((( ))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
I really think you should see if your family could help you more post-op rather than H. I think it relieves him of some of the guilt he must have since he is helping out therefore he is not abandoning you.
My vote is say he can't sleep over until he is ready to make a commitment to your family. When you leave your kids your not allowed to sleep over and make everything safe and honky dory. You need to go home and pray that your family is safe without you.
Just my 2c
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
