Hi Arsene, i like your new thread title.

And your attitude. :-)

I am struggling with something very similar regarding H coming to the house without set times. For the pat two years, H has been traveling almost non-stop. he spends more time away than he does in town. So I had been hesitant to put boundaries in place because he has such little time with them as it stands...and the kids are heartbroken enough as it is.

I would like to think that I will know when its time. At least I hope I do.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home