His Mum left him and his sister with their Dad when H was the same age as S is now. His grandmother also left his Dad with his Grandfather when he was still young. I think he might of been scared of history repeating itself but if that's the case, then he ultimately made it repeat, except just the man leaving this time.
I just noticed this in your sitch. My H's mother also left when he was an early teen and he has never gotten over it. H's grandmother had an affair but stayed with H's grandfather (on H's mother's side.) IMO this is the crux of the problem in our R because H has never dealt with this abandonment and is now projecting his issues onto me.
I just read this on Soul.Searching's site. THIS is why I'm still trying to stick it out for S12.
