Im not leaving the house but we cant carry on like this.
she is as fed up of the merry go round as I am at this point and it is not helping my DB efforts!
In fact, I know its pushing her away more so at this point I am going to to take the advice posted above of just validating her feelings on the issue if she insists on raising it.
She is solidly in fantasy land at the moment at the thought of setting up house with this 55 year old married man! I dont even think he is prepared to leave his wife in all honesty! She told me her feelings for him were 'pretty strong' and that they can talk about everything! Of course they can, the man is a professional psych evaluator!!! If anything, I think he has been supplying her coaching / counseling to get to this point which is a huge conflict of interest in itself IMHO.
The best thing is that we cannot afford to go our separate ways and she has zero in terms of an exit plan. The only way I see this working for her is if married man does indeed leave his wife of 22 years and they shack up together.
It feels like I am in the middle of a personal nightmare or watching a movie.
It truly is the most awful situation I have ever had to deal with.
