You have to be the one to determine what you want to remove or what you want to remain in sight. She's not living there currently and those items that you've packed up are in a safe place for now.
Yes, they do tend to take things from their past life because they don't have the same feelings about them as we do. They are just "stuff" and things that they liked. At least that's their feelings when they first leave. Some do eventually begin to like them again and the memories come flooding back later on.
If you have someone spending time in the home, they will become curious and begin making even more excuses to come around. Some will be happy that you are moving on because it helps to alleviate their guilt and others, will become very angry that you are moving on and not staying where they left you. It all depends upon the mlcer. No, you don't want to play games and have your home look like someone has been there when they haven't...games don't work...they will backfire on you.
Do what you need to do to make yourself feel better and that means removing items from view...so be it. That is one of the consequences of her actions and she'll have to get over it when she comes to visit.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
