I had struggled with this very thing. We meaning kids and myself- wound up that he came and went, would say one thing, do another. They were MORE upset by lack of consistency, and not being able to count on H. Hopefully by giving boundaries - it will help alleviate this for the kids and also to force H into being more purposeful and deliberate in his visiting. If that makes any sense? It is not really saying he can't see them. It is saying he has to show us respect as well.
