Contact is inevitable as we have D8 and I always told W that she could come around as often as she wished.
Arsene, I would strongly advise you to rethink this. This shouldn't be this open-ended, and without more structure. Your wife needs to feel the consequences of her apparent decision to break up her family, and yet you're giving her total unfettered access to probably the single best aspect of that family.
I'm NOT saying to unreasonably restrict access to her daughter. I'm saying it should have more structure to it, and be more respectful of YOUR time with your daughter.
Starsky
Yup... And as you tend to ease into these boundaries, it might be a good idea to set up the first one by telling her you need at least a couple hours of notice before she drops by. This will give you some time to set something up for you to do when W shows up... Let your daughter know that you're going to let her and W spend a little time alone... some Mommy/Daughter time while you go take some Me time...
And once in a while... let W know that it's NOT a good time for her to stop by... Consequence of her actions that she'll feel very quickly...
