That didn't go so hot. I could've wrote the script. After I decided not to call or anything I waited until noon and made other plans. I heard the phone ring just as I got out of the shower. It was him. He basically pulled his usual passive aggressive stuff. Talked to all of the kids and wouldn't talk to me. Then they hang up and say daddy wants to know what the plan is for the day. Ummm. No idea. That's what he is supposed to decide. So they call him back and D10 is on the phone. She says here's mommy. As she's handing me the phone I heard him say something. It sounded like don't put her on. Anyway, I answered, trying to ignore. I said what's the plan? When did you want to Pick them up? And drop them off? I dunno whats your plan. So he pulled this a few times and then starts complaining well D10 said you were going to the library. S14 said you were taking him to WalMart. Meanwhile never once does he say I will be there at such and such time. Never. Finally I started getting pissed. What time? Then I got mad raised my voice. Basically said - we got tired of waiting and made other plans ( all true) so (craft fair thing, Walmart,grocery) in the future please call 24 hours in advance and be clear on pickup and drop off times. Also, if you are rude nasty and belligerent when you call I will hang up and if you aren't able to make plans you just aren't. I want you to be clear on what I expect though. Then he goes off. Saying I am being vindictive, a b!tch. What can I expect? No wonder he doesn't want to come around. Why would I want to be with you? And of course his favorite you are the problem I can't even call because you pick a fight, I can't come and get them because you pick a fight. So same old same old. He says that when he is fighting. Anyway they didn't go which I'm sure is what he wanted. He DID see us last night too he just "had plans" so I don't like that I raised my voice. I do like that I stuck up for myself and laid some boundaries. I intend to stick to them too. I really have felt like it was unfair to them and I had tarted not even mentioning if he was going to get them because he couldn't be counted on and they just wound up disappointed. At least this way he has to think about it and make an effort. He stil may not follow through. Nothing I can do about that.
