Wow, this is getting really uncomfortable in the house. Im basically ignoring or telling her that I dont want to talk about separation, OM etc but its getting to the point where one of is going to walk out the door.
its just painful all round for both of us.
Do I talk, ignore or walk?
Find constructive things to do, stay busy. Exercise, get out of the house and visit someone or some place. Start a project. Get your mind on something else.
You don't want to initiate R talks, but ignoring her when she's pressing for discussion will only make matters worse. Listen and validate her feelings. Ask her for clarifications but do not argue or try to convince her to change her mind. Do not guilt her for wanting out. Tell her you understand why she feels the way she does. If at any time you feel that you can't abide by the bolded section above, excuse yourself and go for a walk to cool down / clear your mind. Tell her you need some time alone.
Don't move out of your house.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
