You took care of yourself yesterday which is what you needed to do and today you can get on with things.
"I saw a sad-looking, uncomfortable, fearful man on Fri. I felt sorry for him."
In your summary of your talk with him, I saw the same thing in your H. You guys have been separated 18 months yet he thinks you are holding on too tight? He was married and unhappy for 20 years but didn't say anything? These are his issues and its really sad.
They have a disease or a disfunction and we have to pray for them to find their own way out.
It is so not your fault and you know that.
My H is exactly like this: ""He wasn't a show-off or braggart, he had an inner strength, he was calm. I needed that because I was coming from a chaotic, unsettled place. I was subconsciously searching for a rescuer and he fit the bill, unbeknownst to him""
He was a rock. But honestly these were men that were stuffing all their feelings until they exploded. They weren't been honest with themselves for years. Not just in regards to their M but in all their relationships, work, parents, kids and on and on. This has left them empty inside.
Check out [edited by dbmod: reference not recommended nor allowed].
You are doing great. Count your blessings
Last edited by dbmod; 11/04/1209:37 PM.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
