You need to GAL as much as possible....stay away from R talk as much as you can---sounds like she is trying to drag you in but being busy with the kids I bet you can avoid it...or you can just say things are too emotional to talk about the R right now...your mind is probably racing right now...I was in this situation a couple of months ago---it seems like so long ago but it was just the middle of august...i still have my moments but I am sleeping now and eating more...but the short answer is you should act like you are getting on with your life and you will be able to survive without her if it comes to that...you are going to do things for you.
One thing that helped me detach and others may argue against this but...I would look at other women...in our circle of friends and daydream that I could be with that person..I don't act on it but it does help boost my confidence a little thinking that yeah if I had to I could eventually pick up the pieces and start dating again. One mistake I made was asking d11 about so and so's mom she is very savy and said don't even think about it. Take it a step at a time..you don't have to solve this problem every night...which is what your mind is doing right now....that is why you are up at 4.30..one quick bit of advice..don't let her see this website or know you are reading the books...something she does not have to know...
