There'll be no white flag above my door-not yet La

[labug]

i think you know in your heart under the pain that will pass that you were really ready to hear these things - else you would not have initiated the conversation.

You are exactly right, i was ready to hear it. In fact that's the thought that was running through my head on Fri. "I'm ready to hear whatever it is he has to say."

I attempted to talk myself out of it but I'm glad I didn't. I have a new sense of peace now.

I am so sorry that you had to - after all the work you have done - still listen to the script - but it is his script not yours - and we will watch and follow proudly how you continue to write yours.

The script-yes, I know they all say those tings but we have to remember that they are conveying their reality. He believes those things because that allows him to be "OK."

There is a certain complacency, that I have always perceived in your h's demeanor, ever since I started reading your posts. and it also came through in how you described the r conversation you've just had with him. There is, I think, only one solution to complacency - and lord knows us LBS's know what it is LOL

That describes him perfectly and it was one of the things that attracted me to him in the beginning. He wasn't a show-off or braggart, he had an inner strength, he was calm. I needed that because I was coming from a chaotic, unsettled place. I was subconsciously searching for a rescuer and he fit the bill, unbeknownst to him.

He did "save me" in a lot of ways and I will always be grateful to him for that.

I will have a great life going forward, I just need to trust the process.

Thanks for making an appearance, I'm honored.