I go to a non-denominational church down the road from my house. It meets Sunday evenings for bible study and a potluck dinner. It's a lot of older old time Alaskans.
I do not push church on my H. H is not interested.
I need God in my life, however. God helps me get through and be thankful the day to day trials and joys of life and helps me stay sober.
I know that H needs to feel like he can really trust me again. I know that he is struggling with that.
What I struggle with is the need to feel loved and appreciated. I struggle with the need to feel like he is really interested in me as a person and in me as his best friend.
Somehow...that went away. We grew apart and I am so sorry for that. Now, I need to work on us growing back together..slowly, but surely...I hope.
Dan, I do think in your sitch that one thing you could do is to positively validate her good behaviours...tell her when she does things you like and tell her when she is doing things right...that's what I need and what would help me to want to really continue working on things...I will work on things no matter what...but it sure would help to get a pat on the back now and then for things I do right ...rather than just hearing about what I have done wrong...
