Back on this site help!!

[LisaLost]

Thanks for the input. I agree alot with what you saying. I do think that this is an issue that won't get better. I know this deep down and our children don't want him home. They don't even like when he comes to see them. He is staying in a hotel and drives 2 hours both ways to work everyday except Sunday. So there is no way for him to get the kids on the weekend. He comes to my house to visit them.

He has always overlapped his relationships. Before we started dating I knew the he changed girl friends alot and always had one waiting before he left his current one. I guess it just hurts me that this time he says he is changing for the better with her. He says that they have open communication and talk about everything and he makes him feel good about himself. He says they have so much fun together. It hurts that he says these things and I don't know how to deal with him.

He hasn't filed anything yet that I know of and he still wants to have sex with me which I gave into one time and I hope this isn't TMI but he wasn't able to perform. Maybe he feels guilty for cheating on ow. I know I shouldn't have done that and I learned my lesson there.

I think the techniques used in divorcebusting will help me get through this and turn the focus on me. I have used a couple already and I know this isn't a game but I acted "as if" and pulled back he freaked out and text me asking if I was seeing someone else. I told him that I am worried about getting my life together and I didn't say yes or no about another man. I know that may have been wrong of me not to clear the air. He text me and asks if I am going out with him and when I only answer if it concerns the kids he reads into it and I get a text from him calling me names and stating that he is going to have the kids meet his 25 year old gf/ow. H knows that will hurt me. He is taking them today to meet her a her kids. She is in the process of getting a divorce.

I know I should not even have thoughts about her but I do. I hate that he is changing for her and didn't change for the kids and me. He says that they are meant to be. I asked him if there was a future with us a few weeks ago and he said that you never know what life will bring. What a line! He seems so happy with her and she has contacted me a few times saying she was sorry for what happened and didn't know if it was going to last with him but she was sure going I try it out and that she didn't want another man telling her what to do

I hope this doesn't sound crazy. I just really need help getting myself together. It hurts so much that he is happy with her and changing for her. I got out phone bill in and saw that he is constantly on the phone with her either texting or actual phone calls 20 plus times a day.

Sorry for the long posts there are lots of things I didn't include yet but as I go through this I am sure it will come out.


Lisa