Lost and confused

[Soul.Searching]

The UF, Yes, I think he did feel like that but he also tried to make me out to be a nagging wife, when I wasn't. Not too long before he left, I found out he had been telling friends I was hassling him when he was out. (In another state and out for the night) Id called him and asked him about a football game. It was my team VS his. I wanted to know if it was on the same time there as here. When I asked him about it, he said it felt like I was hassling him. I just don't understand.
I'm not saying I never hassled him but it was no where near as often as he made out it was to other people.

Maybe his perception is off. Like he will start to see smaller and smaller things as nagging?

My x had a jealous period where she would constantly check up on me, after a while she calmed down. One of my mates gave me a reality check a short while after though, because I would percieve a simple text like "hey whats up?" or "hey how are you?" as just another way to check up on me. lol.

Really? I find that interesting. Maybe he really did feel I was checking up on him? I didn't go through a jealous stage though. Maybe he was just paranoid. He was working with a bunch of guys who have stupid outlooks on wives calling. Maybe he was paranoid. Thanks for the response. I never considered that he actually thought I was hassling him. I didn't understand how he could have thought that.

UF, I don't understand what your saying about the quote. Are you saying they do respect them or they don't?

I was saying that it was spot on, there is a fine line between standing up for yourself and just being a jerk. A guy who would stand up for himself, but still show respect to his W, is a good guy.

I have a friend who tries to stand up for himself, often ends up not, but tries to do it by arguing or being downright respectless towards his W. I've even asked him why their dynamics are this way, it's not healthy. I've put that in my list of traps-I-will-not-fall-into.

Yeah men are from mars,... LOL JK
I've noticed a few different men, doing things they didn't seem to want to do, just to show their mates they are not "Whipped"

Sorry for the double post. I'm trying to make it easier to read. How do i stop that scrolling quote box?