No contact with stbx since a call from him last Monday. So nearly one week. Longest ever unless he's been away on holidays.
He has been calling/texting the kids this weekend. S14 won't answer or reply. D16 has been busy at work where she cannot use her phone. When she belatedly replied tonight, he announced that he was having surgery tomorrow and so would not be available to collect her from school for 2 nights.
When she asked what was wrong, he said "oh, just some maintenance".
Now, i am annoyed because the kids are worried. And I am even more annoyed at what I see as his usual pattern of control.
He'll tell enough to make everyone concerned, but not enough to be open about what is going on with him.
Is this just me?? Surely this is a cruel thing to do to one's kids?
Then I thought - sheet, maybe this announcement to D16 is his way of letting me know - and then as a friend, maybe I should text him a 'hope all goes well'. But then I quickly realised that i am not wanted in his life. Hard not to want to contact him before he goes under anaesthetic, but it's his choice to be free of me.
