ME41 H39 T12 M9 Ilybinilwy 10/2010 H moves out 11/2010 H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011 Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012 Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-) "Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"
So yesterday thanks to Labug and MKB, I finally admitted that to be happy in any relationship, we have to be true to ourselves.
So this thread I am dedicating to working on being authentic (the real Tumbling aka Canada Girl) all the time - including around H (I have trouble with this, I notice I change my behaviour to his moods thinking it's all caused by me even when I havent seen/done/said anything)
From now on when I think about reaching out for H due to some triggered emotion, I am going to say to my Self - what would CG do? - as well as come and vent it all here of course!
Wishing everyone a great weekend. I am out for an early supper shortly and then to the opera,will be a late one so girlfriend is staying over. Sunday I need to do some work and go to the gym (not been since mid September). I hope posting that here will make me go!
WoooHoo! You can do this. One thing I have noticed in my H is he seems to be a bit intimidated when I am more my authentic self. Like you, I really don't care anymore. :-) Live like you were meant to!
Have a great weekend Tumbling. I love the authentic element. You gave encouraged me to think more about this and apply it.
Take care and ENJOY THE GYM as well :-) (see...now you HAVE to go)
Busting
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Yeah Tumbling! You certainly come across as a strong person!
And...you made me reflect
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
Tumbling, great title for your new tread. It reflects where you are in this journey. Wait a few days and you will see how your H will contact you. In the meantime, enjoy your weekend!
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
O,how wonderful to come on the board and see that you have all found my new thread!
I'm feeling positive but tired. Had a great evening with gf - early supper,opera (we only go to tragedies so that can have a big cry and this one did that), the live music and performers really moved me, the story was so sad - La boheme. After it finished we got back to my house - not as late as expected - and sat up drinking G&T til 230am!
But gf only sleeps for 4-5hrs each night so we were up at 8am. So the gym was off the list today but I went for a 2.5hr walk in the wood near here w a male friend who's been away for 5wks - it was good to catch up, we always have great conversations.
When we got back to my place there had been a power outage and my internet wasn't working. I had a go and he had a go but neither of us could figure it out - so I said I'll contact H. It's his domain/system, I have no idea.
So, I text H about the outage and that I couldn't figure it out and did he have any ideas. He text back and asked which of 7(!) boxes had no lights on I text back "box 5. Shall i call you - it might be easier?" And then the phone rang and we sorted that out I mentioned something else about the DVD system not working properly - he said to put it on a list for him to do next time he was over. I told him that I'd learned the term - honey do list - we laughed about it He asked how the opera was - so i told him and that i was really tired because of gf's sleep cycle - we talked about needing sleep I asked what he had done this w/e - nothing, big sleeps didn't get up til late and that he still had stomachache I said I'd been walking w m.friend and that he had news - had met someone he liked (finally) and we talked about that and relationship beginnings - including ours Then I asked him about some admin stuff (house insurance renewal 5 nov) that he had mentioned on Friday - I had text about it yesterday but he hadn't ans'd and i'd let it go - he said he'd got the text but was in a "lazy - can't be bothered - frame of mind". I said no worries but could i have the details now - which he gave me Then we talked about the date of the house insurance and that must be the date we exchanged contracts 9 yrs ago - 2003 he said that he'd just started his current job in the September i said -and it was the year we got married BIG pause/silence* He said his ear was getting hot and he was going to go I said no worries, thanks for helping He said no problem I said bye, hope work meetings w x go well He said bye, Punkydo, speak soon
* I can't remember if we talked about anything else after the pause. I definitely remember the pause and my words hanging in the air. Sometimes words leave my lips without me thinking (need to work on that)
Now back on the blanket. I haven't time this week for moping over H not calling/texting me - need to get to the gym, apply for the dream job, work at home a couple of nights, spanish homework, spanish class, do my blog
So, if anyone catches me on here with my panties in a bunch - please refer me to the above list of things I need to be focusing on.
I don't think your panties are in a bunch! Maybe a minor slip. Not a big deal. Sounds like it could have been worse. Rule of thumb- internet goes off turn the modem/router off and unplug for at least 1 min. Then plug it back in. Give it 5 minutes to resync. If it doesn't work then restart computer and still no go, call the provider.
I have never been to the opera. Would love to go! I would love the symphony too. lol Not much shaking here in the Appalachian Mountains.
So what have you decided about contacting your H? Texting, calling, neither, maybe both? Let him initiate?
