These forums and Michelle's books pretty much saved me and my marriage back starting in 2005. I am back for some support and help and maybe to be able to help someone else because I have been through alot.
Currently my heart is broken again. I want to stand but am unsure of doing so. My H has left me 4 times for 4 different women since 2005 and he had a few other sex only ow. We have 6 kids together. We discussed the sex addict angle but when he starts messing around with a different woman all of a sudden it's me and not sex addiction. He is a serial cheater it seems and I seem weak and pathetic for taking him back and trying hard to stand for him.
We moved 1200 miles away from our hometown last year and have struggled alot financially . My H started a few arguments May after I picked up on the signs he was cheating again. He left the kids and me the last week of May to move in with a friend from work. He denied ow and started blaming me for all the wrongs in his life. We have been together 14 years. I was devastated when he left. In July lost his job because the place he works found out that he was having an affair with the girl who answers the phones. They both got fired. The guy he lived with came by my house late one evening with all his clothing and he moved back home bc he had no other place to go. H is 38 and ow is 25. She is married and has two kids. But she filed for divorce from her husband. H was home until the last week in August after calling up ow and telling her he missed their fun times and she made him feel good. While he was here at home he kept telling me home much he loved me and wanted to work on us and get help. He even promised our kids that he would never leave again and then two weeks later he walked out to a motel and to start seeing ow again.
I think I still love him and this hurts so bad. He is taking our kids to meet her tomorrow. He has told me he doesn't respect me and will always cheat on me that we didn't belong together and I messed up his life. I am freaked out and need some advice. Should I wait for him to maybe come back home? I don't want to be a doormat but made vows to him. He says he loves her and will change for her. They don't get to spend alot of time together so she is still very much a fantasy.
I know I left alot out but please feel free to ask questions
Should I just be patient and hope he comes around ? Or will he always be a cheater?
My kids are
Me:37 H:38 6 kids first bomb 8/05 (ow involved) piecing 7/06 second bomb 3/07 ow involved wash rinse repeat.... huge move to start over 2/11 more affairs H left for good 8/12
