You did well by having your plans and letting him get on with his etc. You sound like too different people sometimes... the dynamic, busy, go getting one with good advice, and the needy, pathetic one at others.
NO OFFENCE meant. We are all like that at times. It's just that the former is so much more attractive and seems to suit your husband, while the latter puts him off.
From my position it still seems that you could CUT RIGHT BACK on the explicit R talk. You could appreciate him in small doses and much more subtly, so it isn't in your face R talk.
I'm sure your H is well aware by now that you want him and your M. Just concentrate on being confident and busy with yourself, throw in plenty of positive, but LIGHT positive feedback about him, and stand right back!
Got to go...
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
