About the bedwetting, I'm relatively new, so I don't know your daughter's history, but has she seen a pediatric urologist? 2 of my boys had bedwetting issues until age 9 or 10, but that ran in my family, so I didn't worry. They outgrew it. However, I did used to work for a urologist who treated pediatric patients who had actual issues other than immaturity, like low grade infections or reflux, which could be fixed.
