Why does your W think she's having a MLC? Being 40, stressed and having an A doesn't necessarily mean she have a MLC.
If she really is...the folks on the MLC forum may be a lot of help with their advice. Honestly, I hope she's a WAW, b/c that doesn't always last as long as a MLC. I honestly believe from what a lot of LBH's say that they had rather believe their W is having a MLC...than the alternative. IDK, but there sure are a lot of them who say very much the same as you have.
Either way, I hope you'll stick with us. If you'll take the advice here...it could save your M, and especially save you. I know it certainly saved mine. I was the WAW who had been M many years. I thought I was having a MLC too. But people on the board kept telling me I was too old to be in mid-life! I guess they were right, but I tend to believe if one can have a MLC in their 20's, as MWD says....then surely they can have one many years later.
But here's the point I want to make. Whatever the diagnois, your M is in serious trouble. Don't ignore that. Read the book and read all the threads you can read here on the board. If you can afford the coaching, get it. If not, then keep posting and reading. Do it every day, b/c people will respond more if you will do it regularly.
One thing you're going to hear a lot is to work at improving yourself b/c that's the only person you control. If you will do that one thing....you will be so much happier. You have already taken a giant step by getting back into your regular AA meetings. That's got to cause you to have more self respect. Others will too. Stay with it.
Don't give up!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
