I have no "great words of wisdom" about any specifics of what you should, or shouldn't, do here. You are handling it well, whether or not YOU believe so at times!!
YOU have made some WONDERFUL changes in your life within the past year or so. Changes that have improved the potential for the quality of your relationship with your husband. In fact, what you have done is beyond the scope of what most people could ever realize. Therefore, my hat is off, and my heart goes out, to you!!!
You have taken your life to a new level. That is something that you should be VERY proud of!
DO remember, though, the dynamics of your relationship have changed. As much as you have gone through some big "stuff" on your own, so has he. He's coming back to a different woman. It's going to take some adjusting on his part, too. He's not with you there everyday, so he hasn't been through the whole process with you.
It's all GOOD, though, so don't stop what you're doing!! Just do what you can to cut him some slack, and give him some time to adjust, too.
What you are doing with AA is so important. Keep doing that!! Also, you might want to hit an Al-anon meeting or two if you can. I think that this would help both you, and the members of that group, to see all sides of the situation.
I STILL have good feelings about the future of your marriage, alaskangal!! It will take some time, some perserverance, and a lot of patience and understanding, but I know you have this within you!!
JJ
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